The Power of Forgiveness

Posted: January 28, 2012 at 7:44 am

This post was written by Mr Bullyproof

Yesterday, the BBC reported that two bullies had been convicted of manslaughter. Rosimeiri Boxall died after falling from the third-floor window of Ajose’s flat. She was being attacked by Kemi Ajose and Hatice Can (17 and 13 year old at the time) and climbed out the window to escape them. Kemi and Hatice each claimed the other had said “yes” when Miss Boxall asked: “Do you want me to jump?”

Rosimeiri’s parents forgive the girls. I think this is very powerful. If you hold resentment against someone then when you think about what they have done, you will feel your resentment. While this may be a perfectly natural thing to do, it certainly isn’t useful. Feeling bad about what someone else has done will not benefit you in any way. The purpose of forgiveness is not to let someone off the hook, it is to allow those who have been hurt to move on in their lives in a positive way.

If you have been hurt by someone and find that you can’t ‘let go’ then consider this: Isn’t it bad enough that someone else hurt you? Do you really have to hurt yourself too by going over what happened in your mind again and again? Use forgiveness to free yourself from these thoughts and replace them with positive, useful thoughts instead.

I fully admire and respect Rosimeiri’s parents for choosing to use the power of forgiveness. I’m sure it will give them peace and the ability to move on.

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