Mr BullyproofWhen someone constantly makes fun of you
I was asked a great question on Facebook: “What is the best way to handle someone who is very good at taking the p and the other person is not. When I look at people I find it very difficult to pick out anything bad about them as I don’t think it’s in my nature to do so. Thank you.” Only fight battles you have already won The first thing I noticed, when reading your question , is that you seem to think the right thing to do is fight... Read More
Bravado and threatening behaviour
Bravado and threatening behaviour Yesterday, I was stood between 2 people threatening to kill each other. One had accidentally hit the other by letting go of a spring loaded barrier (the kind used for guiding people in queues). The confrontation started with “Watch what you’re doing!” and escalated very quickly to “I’m going to destroy you!” Because we were standing in a queue, they were no more than arms length apart and, with me standing... Read More
How to help your child
It can be incredibly frustrating being a parent of a child who is being bullied. Most parents would do anything to protect their children from being deliberately harmed by others but often they can feel powerless to help. It can be especially frustrating when you know your child is being bullied but they won’t tell you about it. Or if they do, they will give a vague description of what is going on, likely missing out the very details you want... Read More
Bullying Advice for Parents
It can be incredibly frustrating being a parent of a child who is being bullied. Most parents would do anything to protect their children from being deliberately harmed by others but often they can feel powerless to help. It can be especially frustrating when you know your child is being bullied but they won’t tell you about it. Or if they do, they will give a vague description of what is going on, likely missing out the very details you want... Read More
Bullying Advice
Every bullying situation is different. Bullies have a knack of finding out what buttons to press to get the reactions they want from you. So you have to be adaptable. Use the following general ideas by adapting them to suit your situation. Realise that bullying is ALWAYS ABOUT THE BULLY. I can´t stress this enough. People bully because they get something out of it. Sometimes it´s a feeling of control, significance, power or even inclusion. If they... Read More
How to Deal With Bullying
There are many ways of dealing with bullying. Some are more effective than others but the most important thing to appreciate is that every bullying situation is different. What will work well in one situation may well make things worse in another. Because each bullying situation is unique, you need to be flexible. Bullies are usually very flexible themselves. They have to figure out which techniques will hurt you the most and which ones will get the... Read More
Bullies
In order to change the behaviour of bullies it is important that we understand them. Most people find it difficult to comprehend bullying. How could people be so cruel? What would make someone want to hurt people? In this article, I would to offer you some insight into the mind of a bully so that you have a starting point for designing some ideas which can help to change the way they behave. Most bullies don’t know they are bullies. They don’t... Read More
Respect Me Annual Conference
Today I attended Respect Me’s annual conference. I thought it was really good. They had lots of inspirational ideas and a great overall focus. The main theme was on children’s rights. Children have the right to an education and have the right to be protected from harm within schools. Additionally, they have the right to know what their rights are. I like this focus. I’m all for empowering children. When implemented well, it empowers... Read More
My manager is treating me badly
I was asked a great question on Facebook yesterday (28/10/10) which I’d like to answer here: “I have alleged that my boss was bullying me. Her boss said it was only my perception, surely that is the point. I like what you say about bullies not realising they are bullies my union rep said something similar, but surely you must realise it when you treat people badly” What you consider to be treating people badly is not necessarily... Read More