“Bully made me suicidal”

Let’s begin this blog by comparing physical and verbal bullying. Last week the BBC reported the story of a 14 year old girl who decided to commit suicide. A boy taunted her with racist insults over a period of 7 months AFTER the school stepped in to deal with the problem. She felt she couldn’t confide in any of her teachers and the school had advised her against getting her Mother involved again. Fortunately, her suicide attempt failed.... Read More

National Bullying Helpline

The National Bullying Helpline is a charity set up to help eradicate Bullying in all corners of our society; in the Workplace, the Playground, in the Home and in the Community. BULLYING IS DISCRIMINATION. BULLYING DOES NOT DISCRIMINATE … any one of us may be targeted Call 0845 22 55 787 for help The National Bullying Helpline was initially founded to assist those who struggle with bullying at work. There is much focus today on Workplace Investigations,... Read More

Physical Bullying

There seems to be a widely held perception that physical bullying is more severe than other forms of bullying. In my experience, I find this to be far from the truth. I have asked a great many of my clients the same question: “If you had the choice of ongoing psychological bullying, name calling, sneering etc., or just taking a physical beating which would you prefer?” Almost everyone says they would prefer the physical beating. The reason for... Read More

Being Bullied

An incredibly common question for victims of bullying to ask themselves is “Why is it happening to me?” Often this leads to a second, and an entirely unhelpful, question: “What’s wrong with me?” Unsurprisingly, the answers you come up with can lead to low self-esteem, a lack of confidence and reclusiveness. None of this will make the bullying stop. In fact, it’s far more likely to make you an even tastier target for the bullies. The question... Read More

When someone constantly makes fun of you

I was asked a great question on Facebook: “What is the best way to handle someone who is very good at taking the p and the other person is not. When I look at people I find it very difficult to pick out anything bad about them as I don’t think it’s in my nature to do so. Thank you.” Only fight battles you have already won The first thing I noticed, when reading your question , is that you seem to think the right thing to do is fight... Read More

Gordon Brown and bullying in parliament

Well, Gordon Brown is accused of being a bully. There is a big uproar as to whether he really is or not and the definitions of bullying are again coming into question. Does no one ever watch Prime Minister’s questions? Are the huge amounts of name calling, jeering, personal attacks and humiliation that we see every week not very firm examples of bullying? If we can’t see blatant bullying in the Houses of Parliament performed by nearly... Read More

Facebook bully Keeley Houghton to be jailed

Keeley Houghton is the first person to be imprisoned for cyberbullying. She spent 4 years victimising a girl on facebook including a threat of murder. This started when the girls were 14 and they are both now 18 years old. I am glad to see legal action being taken against someone who has run a long and vindictive bullying campaign. The message this will send out to other cyber bullies is bound to be profound. It will also be empowering for the victims.... Read More

The Importance of Confidence

Confidence is extremely important towards having success in your life. It can be one of the most vital aspects towards someone having both prosperity and peace of mind. These are just some of the reasons why confidence is extremely important for you and why you need it in your life. Confidence is a positive trait which can be very noticeable to others. If you are filled with confidence then people are able to look at you and they should be able to... Read More

Abused by their own children

Many parents are living in fear of their children, but are too ashamed to ask for help. They are being beaten and abused and are doing nothing to get help often because they feel ashamed. Statistically, girls are the most likely to be abusers and Mum’s are much more likely to be the targets although it’s very hard to see the real picture because so few people come forwards. The key here is power. The child takes the power away from the... Read More

Respect Me Annual Conference

Today I attended Respect Me’s annual conference. I thought it was really good. They had lots of inspirational ideas and a great overall focus. The main theme was on children’s rights. Children have the right to an education and have the right to be protected from harm within schools. Additionally, they have the right to know what their rights are. I like this focus. I’m all for empowering children. When implemented well, it empowers... Read More