Forgiveness

Many of the adults who come to me have a lot of issues from their past that they have never properly dealt with. Their childhood memories are full of bad experiences they have had and they re-live those memories over and over again. Often they tell me they have tried to forget about them but they can’t. In reality, most have been simply hoping these memories will leave them. The problem is not with the memories themselves but with the emotional... Read More

Bullying Advice for Parents

It can be incredibly frustrating being a parent of a child who is being bullied. Most parents would do anything to protect their children from being deliberately harmed by others but often they can feel powerless to help. It can be especially frustrating when you know your child is being bullied but they won’t tell you about it. Or if they do, they will give a vague description of what is going on, likely missing out the very details you want... Read More

How to help your child

It can be incredibly frustrating being a parent of a child who is being bullied. Most parents would do anything to protect their children from being deliberately harmed by others but often they can feel powerless to help. It can be especially frustrating when you know your child is being bullied but they won’t tell you about it. Or if they do, they will give a vague description of what is going on, likely missing out the very details you want... Read More

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Case Study Part 2

I found Charlie and his Dad, Ian, very easy to work with. They were very keen to learn new skills and were very open minded with the concepts I was putting across. This made the training session relatively short. We did about 5 hours actual training time. (A maximum time would typically be around 7 hours). First of all, we did a couple of exercises on how to feel good under any circumstances. We used body language, imagination, rapport, facial expressions,... Read More

The Power of Forgiveness

Yesterday, the BBC reported that two bullies had been convicted of manslaughter. Rosimeiri Boxall died after falling from the third-floor window of Ajose’s flat. She was being attacked by Kemi Ajose and Hatice Can (17 and 13 year old at the time) and climbed out the window to escape them. Kemi and Hatice each claimed the other had said “yes” when Miss Boxall asked: “Do you want me to jump?” Rosimeiri’s parents forgive... Read More

Bravado and threatening behaviour

Bravado and threatening behaviour Yesterday, I was stood between 2 people threatening to kill each other. One had accidentally hit the other by letting go of a spring loaded barrier (the kind used for guiding people in queues). The confrontation started with “Watch what you’re doing!” and escalated very quickly to “I’m going to destroy you!” Because we were standing in a queue, they were no more than arms length apart and, with me standing... Read More

Being Bullied

An incredibly common question for victims of bullying to ask themselves is “Why is it happening to me?” Often this leads to a second, and an entirely unhelpful, question: “What’s wrong with me?” Unsurprisingly, the answers you come up with can lead to low self-esteem, a lack of confidence and reclusiveness. None of this will make the bullying stop. In fact, it’s far more likely to make you an even tastier target for the bullies. The question... Read More

Marathon Success!

I completed the marathon in under 4 hours 45mins. For me, this was a psychological experiment. I did no physical training beforehand. I regularly encourage my clients to change their beliefs about themselves and I had to change a lot of my own beliefs about me for this task to be successful. Here’s what I did: Firstly, I considered what are my current beliefs were: I am unfit I am not a runner I am overweight I don’t have any stamina My... Read More