New Testimonial

I’ve just received a lovely email from one of my clients. She has kindly given her permission for me to post it online: hello, sorry its taken so long to get back to you. I would just like to say a huge thankyou to yourself for being so kind to help me and shalaine after you read our story in the paper. What a difference you have made in helping us that now shalaine has more confidence in herself and she has really excelled so much that the... Read More

Bullying Advice

Every bullying situation is different. Bullies have a knack of finding out what buttons to press to get the reactions they want from you. So you have to be adaptable. Use the following general ideas by adapting them to suit your situation. Realise that bullying is ALWAYS ABOUT THE BULLY. I can´t stress this enough. People bully because they get something out of it. Sometimes it´s a feeling of control, significance, power or even inclusion. If they... Read More

Stop Bullying

In order to stop people bullying, it is important to understand how people are motivated to change their behaviours. If you are being bullied then, at the moment, the bullies have some motivation to bully you. They gain something emotionally as a result of hurting you. Emotional needs are incredibly powerful. All of us meet our emotional needs in one way or another. Some people use very positive means to meet their need and some people can... Read More

Bullying is Subjective

What are your definitions of bullying? Are those definitions useful to you? One of the major problem schools have in dealing with bullying is in how they define it. It’s not just a paper exercise in thinking up labels, it makes a massive difference as to whether the organisation takes action as result of an incident or not. If you have a child who is being bullied at school, the school will only help them if the teachers believe that whatever has... Read More

Bravado and threatening behaviour

Bravado and threatening behaviour Yesterday, I was stood between 2 people threatening to kill each other. One had accidentally hit the other by letting go of a spring loaded barrier (the kind used for guiding people in queues). The confrontation started with “Watch what you’re doing!” and escalated very quickly to “I’m going to destroy you!” Because we were standing in a queue, they were no more than arms length apart and, with me standing... Read More

Bullying at the Workplace

Bullying in the workplace is rife. One study* suggests about 1 in 4 people are victims of bullying at their work at sometime in their lives and that 1 in 12 are bullied on a regular basis. Bullying is so commonplace in our work environments that it has become ‘normalised’. We are so familiar with it that we unconsciously allow it, accept and, for many, take part in it. Perhaps we learned this in school. We have simply transferred the ‘social... Read More

Welcome

Welcome to my Blog. Here you will find my articles and thoughts on bullying, how to stop it and how to prevent it from happening. We’ll be looking at high profile media stories when they come along and I will be offering my insight into bullying situations that the media haven’t picked up on. I hope you find my blog helpful, interesting and entertaining. Feel free to leave comments or contact me directly. Mark McKenzie Mr Bullyproof Welcome Read More

Marathon Success!

I completed the marathon in under 4 hours 45mins. For me, this was a psychological experiment. I did no physical training beforehand. I regularly encourage my clients to change their beliefs about themselves and I had to change a lot of my own beliefs about me for this task to be successful. Here’s what I did: Firstly, I considered what are my current beliefs were: I am unfit I am not a runner I am overweight I don’t have any stamina My... Read More

Amsterdam Marathon Please Sponsor Me

This Sunday I will be running the Amsterdam Marathon for Childline. I’m not a runner. Never have been. In fact, I don’t do a whole lot of exercise at all. However I do believe I can achieve this through strength of mind. Every one of my one-to-one clients experiences huge changes in their own beliefs. They are able to achieve so much more than they ever thought possible just by changing the way they think. I like to practice what I preach,... Read More