Case Study Part 2

Posted: January 27, 2012 at 7:42 am

This post was written by Mr Bullyproof

I found Charlie and his Dad, Ian, very easy to work with. They were very keen to learn new skills and were very open minded with the concepts I was putting across. This made the training session relatively short. We did about 5 hours actual training time. (A maximum time would typically be around 7 hours).

First of all, we did a couple of exercises on how to feel good under any circumstances. We used body language, imagination, rapport, facial expressions, synaesthesia, reframing, positive language and hypnosis. The exercises were fun, a little bit silly and very effective.

Next, we spent quite a lot of time on changing the way they think about bullying. We looked at it very objectively (i.e. with no emotions involved) and we looked at how everyone experiences bullying situations in different ways. For me, this is a mind opening exercise. Charlie is now able to give himself permission to change the way he feels in any situation. This is the most empowering part of the training – my clients, often for the first time, can feel in control of any bullying situation. Now that they are in control of the situation, they can change it.

We looked at what bullies gain from what they do. Then we took some specific examples which Charlie had experienced and figured out what his bullies’ motivations were. The main ones in his case were ‘approval’ and ‘admiration’. He was being bullied by groups where the ring-leader gained admiration from his friends and the friends gained approval from the leader. Specifically for this case, we chose a strategy of ‘breaking the pact’. i.e. turning the pack against the leader. This involved specific body language skills, voice tone and being able to confidently question members of the pack in such a way that they question what they are doing and why they are following so ‘submissively’. By turning the bullies against each other in this situation they don’t achieve their goal and they have a massive incentive to stop their behaviour.

We finished the session after Charlie felt he was able to deal with any bullying situation effectively. As with all my clients they can phone me to go over any parts of the training they need re-enforced or to discuss any other problems or situations that may have cropped up in the meantime.

In part 3, Ian and Charlie will, I hope, offer their own perspective on the training.

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